We all have our own God-given talents to express, and those will always be our most competitive edge in work, life & love. I learned this lesson the hard way when I competed at Miss USA. I changed my hair, makeup, wardrobe, etc. to what I thought a pageant girl should look like. This was no one’s fault but my own. I tried to imitate what I saw worked for other girls years prior--seems like that would make sense, right? But the most infectious thing I could have worn, my authenticity, was drowning in my inches of hair and pounds of makeup.
This next part may come as a surprise: I still don’t regret any of those decisions. In addition to gaining an incredible conversation starter and a fun once in a lifetime experience, I learned the importance of expressing my authentic self through my personal style, actions and opinions. Now I take this knowledge to a much bigger playing field: the hosting world. Whenever I host a show, I bring my strongest qualities: confidence, wisdom, relatability, passion, warmth, class, sweetness and a lil sass 😉
Something that’s really trendy for hosts right now it to be “edgy”. I love other hosts like this, but that’s not me. My energy is better spent ignoring those opportunities and focusing on the ones looking for my kind of essence.
Most people go through this transition of owning who they are. In one of his acceptance speeches at the 2015 Grammys, Sam Smith was so honest and heartfelt when he said: “I tried to lose weight and I was making awful music and it was only until I started to be myself that the music started to flow and people started to listen.”
Isn’t this the truth for every industry? People are attracted to authenticity. And if someone doesn’t like your authentic self, that's on them, not you.
There will always be people who don’t like you whether you’re being yourself or not. So you might as well be yourself. Not only will you be more fulfilled, more people will believe you and what you stand for.