You may have seen my post last week about Kim Kardashian. Before you tune me out, hear me out instead. I don’t choose Kim as a role model. And I wouldn’t make many of the choices she has made. But I did show her some support last week.
In case you missed it, she posted a photo on Instagram that left very little to the imagination. In return, body-shamers came out in full force to explain, in not-so-nice words, why they think she is basically awful. This is the part I am not okay with.
When we she shame one woman, we shame all women.
Don’t get me wrong, I would never take a photo like this, let alone post it for the public. But, it’s not about me. Or you. Or them. That photo is about nobody else but her. And only she knows if her motivations were empowering or demeaning and if she felt confident or insecure.
Back to my point about this post.
I made someone mad. They even unfollowed me. And I don’t like making people mad. Actually I hate it.
So I doubted myself.
Should I have made this post?
Maybe I should delete it?
Then something awesome happened...
Several Empoweristas chimed in about their thoughts on the topic. Some agreed with my points, others didn’t. But they were all respectful, smart, open-minded and empowering. And that’s what Empoweristas are.... respectful, smart, open-minded and empowering (regardless if they are Keeping Up with the Kardashians or not).
Because I didn’t play it safe or keep it general and surface-y, I was able to go deeper with the people that matter most… the like-minded individuals. The ones that will stick around and participate in the Empowerista community.
As for those hating from a distance? We don’t need ‘em.
So yeah, I may have lost a few followers. But more importantly, I strengthened my relationship with a few of the followers that matter most.
I love this quote by Marie Forleo:
“If you're talkin' to everybody, you're talkin' to nobody.”
Basically, if you’re talking to your specific tribe (target audience, raving fans, etc.), you’ll end up being specific about your opinion, point of view and values. Because of this, not everyone is going to agree with you. And guess what? That’s a good thing.
It’s not about pleasing everyone. It’s about connecting with the people who matter most.
What’s something you’ve always wanted to share that might not agree with everyone but will allow you to go deeper with your tribe? Go share it, girl!